Positivity, Courage, and When Things Work Out

What a strange year 2017 has been. Full of change and growth. Later this month I’ll be doing a 2017 Reflections post looking back at the year and everything that has come with it. I’m really looking forward to spending the time reflecting and going on that little journey. Every year, as the new year approaches, I love to look back at the year and how things have changed, as I set goals and resolutions for the new year.

In the meantime, however, I wanted to share a quick life update and a few of my thoughts while they are fresh in my mind, along with some random photos of Dani and I being existential.

Dani the Goldendoodle and I being existential in the car

As I shared back in October, I was laid off from my job this fall. As I also shared then, I had this strange feeling that everything was going to be okay. Of course, I was worried about finding another job and stressed about the financial aspect of not working, especially with the holidays coming up. But I didn’t despair. I reminded myself every day to remain positive and to look for the opportunity in the situation. I tried to be grateful each day for being home, for my long walks with Dani, for the time I now had to work on this blog, to look toward new career paths, to find something that I really, truly loved. I had bad days, but overall I tried my very best to maintain a positive outlook. I told myself it was going to work out.

And guess what? It did!

This week I accepted an offer for what I might even venture so far as to call my dream job. I took a really winding path to get here, but I’m finally in a spot where I feel that I belong, doing exactly what I’ve wanted to be doing for a long time.

Dani the Goldendoodle and I being existential

But the path wasn’t always clear to me. Actually, it was never clear to me. It just kind of happened. By chance, by a stroke of luck, maybe even through fate.

At the beginning of the year, I was very unhappy. There was just something about my job at that time that wasn’t right for me. I didn’t feel like myself. I was mentally and physically exhausted, stressed, and depressed. I didn’t know how to break this cycle and just kept going through the motions day after day, wanting so badly to be doing something else but not knowing how to make it happen. One day, I decided to stop making everything so much more damn complicated than it needed to be, and I began looking for jobs online. I found one that seemed like a perfect fit, applied, interviewed, and two weeks later I had broken the cycle. I had a new job.

That was at the beginning of the summer. Then, I lost that job this fall. 

That’s when I knew that everything would work out. As I shared back then, I had recently begun listening to The Happiness Advantage, and the night before I had listened to a chapter on finding opportunity in difficult situations.

I knew that this was an opportunity to find the thing that I was truly meant to be doing. And so I’m grateful, because that job was exactly what I needed to pull me out of my own toxic loop and back to myself, so that I would be available and ready for this new opportunity.

Dani the Goldendoodle and I being existential in the car

And here I am. So often we only share the good things in our lives, because we are worried about bringing others down, about oversharing, or just about being vulnerable. But I think it’s important to be honest about the negative aspects, too, because it makes you appreciate the positive things.

When I wrote about The Power of Positivity earlier this fall, I myself was engaged in the challenge of developing a more positive mindset, of looking for the good in the world, of being grateful and intentional. I can tell you that it has helped in so many ways.

I wasn’t blindly optimistic in thinking that I was going to get a great job, or burying my head in the sand and avoiding the problems before me. But I worked every day to practice my positivity and change my frame of mind.

And I honestly, truly, sincerely felt that hey, I don’t know what’s going to happen next, but I know that everything will be okay. I will figure it out. I will figure it out.

I didn’t just say it. I felt it, I believed it. You must believe in yourself and your ability to be exactly who you want to be. You must feel in your heart that things will work out the way you want them to. You must believe in your own ability to make it happen! And you must have the courage to do so.

Thank you for reading this, and for giving me a place to work through my thoughts. I can’t tell you how much it helps me, and I hope that just maybe, it might help you in some ways, too.

 

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